Those Awkward Sweet Moments

The first few months of being together was amazing. In fact, it's not really that different from what we are now except that we're more open and a lot stronger. When I decided to become Alex Polar Bear's significant other, I knew that it was a serious thing. It wasn't a game and it was something that I will fight for.

However, it felt weird. OMG! I'm one weird girl, how do I keep up being myself??

OMG how do I show him that the real Honey Bear is childish, funny and nonetheless, undignified??

I'm one unique girl with a twisted sense of humor. I'm also awfully blunt and I barely sugarcoat things. I know that he loves me but I was afraid - what if he doesn't like the rest of me? I've always been honest with who I was, my past, my present and my ideas for the future. But then what if I say or do something that he finds distasteful?

Making funny faces - ✔

Well, I guess we're just both crazy ^_^

Being Each Other's Strength : Life is No Longer Just About You

How do you make it work? OMG how do we make it work?

Being in a long distance relationship means doubling challenges. You need a strong sense of commitment and dedication to overcome all the obstacles that come your way. As much as it sounds like a cliche, it is true that there are two very important factors that we always need to keep in mind:

Love & Trust

There will be personal dilemmas, attitude differences, career options and many other reasons that may affect your feelings and mindsets. Anything can technically cause an argument, can make you feel uncomfortable and let you get hurt. Now, the real challenge is how to deal with all these things. Take note that it's not just about loving and trusting each other - it's also about coping up with each other.

Here are some things that Alex Polar Bear and I are doing to maintain a healthy and loving relationship. We are still learning a lot from each other and I know that what we're doing now will still evolve depending on how things turn out. Now our current state is being far away from each other. It won't be for long but it will still be a few more months of separation.

I am focused on couples dealing with LDRs, however these are simple yet generalized tips. It means everyone can do it! Yep, yes you ^_^ Even if you're simply sitting down beside your man, or he's a few blocks down the road in his own home, this is still important and effective advice that you can try out yourself ;) This doesn't mean that only you have to do it. Both you and your beau should have good and positive practices to make it work.

Now here are a few things ^.^

Loving Across the Pacific Ocean

I was never a fan of long distance relationships. It was never for me, I thought. It was hard! You're not together, you'll have to deal with things on your own, you're alone most of the time, you go places and attend functions with no partner, you're basically single but not allowed to date anyone. That was my perspective on this type of relationship and I was completely not up for it.

When I graduated high school, I broke up with my then ex-boyfriend because we were going to study in different cities. I was going to stay in my dorm while he remained in Cavite. There was no bad blood - just the fact that many things may happen. Instead of hanging onto me and some promise, I chose to let go. I was young, I wanted to have fun and my mind was all focused in career. I was 16 - life was just about to begin.

Many years later I landed as a Crew Operator where I managed seafarers and their vessel assignments. During the latter part I was already single and some of my crew (who have also become friends) would ask me "why not date a seaman? Many here like you." But then I always responded with the same thing, "I don't want to be alone."

Being alone was hard for me. It was a personal issue, I suppose. I don't like being far away, being on my own. I depended a part of me on my partner and being in a long distance relationship was just the same as being single.

When I became Alex Polar Bear's Princess Honey Bear, I knew what I was up for.

I'm in the Philippines...
He's in Wisconsin!

It's not really that bad. If you're serious and you really love each other it's not really so bad. The distance and actual physical estrangement may cause some bumps along the road but you'll make it!

Spring to Love

Note: OMG I'm so happy, I just set up our official home page and yesh, PolarHoneyBears.com is now live!! Much much happy :3 Uhm, well yeah just saying ♥

A few years ago, a friend of mine told me about this site called Formspring. He was following his favorite actress there and he said that we can ask anything and everything to anyone. Not really intending to be active or anything, I signed up for an account and literally forgot about it.

Several months ago, I was in the process of finding myself. To cut it short, it was during the time that I quit my job and was either doing household chores or somewhere out there traveling. Out of nowhere I decided to check out my Formspring account.

Oh, and it's now called Spring.Me.

So there I was, staring at the random questions from random people. Apparently it's not just for actors or singers, but it was more of a dynamic space to talk about anything.

The Bear Bear Site! Yay!

Hello lovelies!

It's me Kimi from Kimi Goes Places!

Welcome to my site solely dedicated to my adventures with my dear Alex Bear. 

Everything is still under construction at the moment but I will be updating soon. I think this is just perfect to document our journey, including our travel and visa application process in order to help others who are also wondering about the same thing.

Being in an inter-racial and long distance relationship can be hard. The both of us face struggles of many sorts from cultural differences, the miles between us, to the mere fact that sometimes my tongue gets hard and I can no longer speak proper English. Uhm, yeah I do get tired after six hours of nonstop talking O.o

I will be putting up more updates soon!

xoxo

~ Honey Bear ~

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